About the Author
Hima Gu
“I pulled myself out of hell, so I can help you get out too.”
I’m a Chinese woman born in the 1980s, now living in Bali after spending the past decade abroad across different cultures. I grew up carrying not only my own childhood trauma, but layers of generational trauma shaped by war, the Cultural Revolution and the experiences passed down through my family. My father was an orphan who later became narcissistic, emotionally unavailable and dependent on alcohol; my mother is AuDHD (autistic + ADHD) and lived for years with domestic violence. My own childhood included sexual abuse, bullying, depression, self-harm and neurodermatitis, and I carried many of those experiences into adulthood as CPTSD, codependency, and sex and love addiction. I spent years trying to find my way out through different forms of healing—from plant medicine and somatic psychotherapy to 12-Step recovery, Tantra, yoga and Chinese medicine—learning what genuinely helped, what didn’t, and what sent me down unnecessary rabbit holes. Today, many of the struggles that once dominated my life have become manageable enough for me to live, work and participate in society with stability and agency. My journey has gradually shifted from patient to survivor, practitioner and independent researcher. I created Gupava as a way to contribute something back: documenting what I’ve learned about trauma, addiction, relationships, embodiment and spiritual practice through both an Eastern female perspective and a decade of international experience, and sharing the research, practices and hard-earned lessons that helped me find my own way out.
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Certified Practitioner in Somatic & Polyvagal Addictions Treatment
Survivor of domestic violence, sexual assault, depression, self-harm, cult-related trauma, complex PTSD (CPTSD), and AuDHD
Independent researcher in Eastern feminism, Taoism, Tantra, Shaktism, shamanic traditions, plant medicine, psychedelics, spirituality, and embodied healing
Facilitator of 12-Step group healing spaces for Adult Children, sex and love addiction, and codependency recovery
Astrologer and coach specializing in Zi Wei Dou Shu (Chinese astrology) and the I Ching, with 500+ clients served
10+ years of experience in user experience design, branding, and creative direction; previously worked at TikTok and Ogilvy, with client experience including Disney, IDEO, and the World Bank
Certified 200-Hour Yoga Teacher
Choose your next step
A guided PDF workbook for love addiction, codependency, inner child healing, and shadow work. Through personal inventories, psychological reflection, and structured recovery exercises, you'll uncover the unconscious patterns behind emotional dependency, identity projection, and self-sacrifice—then begin rebuilding self-worth, agency, and healthier relationship patterns.
About the author
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The Problem
No matter how many short videos you've watched about self-love, dating advice, attachment styles, or manifestation, real change won't happen until you do the deep self-inventory work. If you're truly ready to break toxic relationship patterns, invest your energy in what actually creates lasting change.
The solution
This workbook distills the core principles of Love Fantasy Addiction, Codependency Recovery, Childhood Trauma, Inner Child Healing, and Shadow Work into practical exercises. Instead of spending years consuming endless content or relying solely on therapy, you'll uncover and release the emotional knots that keep attracting the same people, repeating the same patterns, and recreating the same pain.
Inside the Worksheet：
Identity Projection to uncover the identity you've been projecting onto someone else's halo.
Energy Inventory to audit where your time, money, attention, and emotional energy are actually going.
Love Addiction & Withdrawal to recognize your addiction cycle and emotional withdrawal triggers.
Inner Child Shadow Work to reconnect today's emotional patterns with their childhood roots.
Belief Rewiring to identify and replace the limiting beliefs driving codependency.
Agency Rebuilding to redirect your energy toward creating your own life and future.
You'll Learn To：
Separate your own identity from the fantasy you've projected onto someone else.
Recognize where your energy is leaking—and bring it back to yourself.
Break the cycle of love addiction before it repeats itself.
Understand how childhood wounds continue to shape your adult relationships.
Transform self-sacrifice into self-worth and healthy boundaries.
Build a life that no longer depends on someone else's halo.
Healing becomes more powerful when it's shared. Every story is a mirror. Sometimes we recognize our own wounds only after seeing them reflected in someone else. If this workbook helped you recognize a pattern or take the first step toward healing, we'd love to hear your story. DM us your experience, breakthrough, or reflection. With your permission, we'll select some submissions to publish anonymously on Gupava, so others can realize they're not alone and find hope in your journey.Your story could be the one that helps someone else break the same cycle.
Practice on your own
For self-guided reflection and exercises.
Practice with others
Join a facilitated healing space with other women.
Work with me directly
For personalized guidance on your specific patterns and situation.